Everyone loves the idea of a TV moment- running into the love of their life and seeing that yellow umbrella for the first time. There are all those brave and impassioned speeches about love that inspire us and make us believe in true love.
However I have noticed that our culture will actually distance itself from this in our everyday lives.
After all that it is just television and not real life- television is supposed to be dramatic and inspiring.
In real life we need to be more practical and grounded when it comes to love and romance.
Making impassioned speeches, believing in fate, destiny and yellow umbrellas' is "not realistic" and even seen as a little weird.
Our culture loves the idea of love and romance- but its not willing to look like a complete idiot to have it.
It's not willing to "Ted it up" to get there.
I used to think that Ted Mosby was a hopeless dreamer with unrealistic ideas about love and destiny.
During the series of "How I met your Mother" we watch his search for true love be celebrated but also questioned and laughed at. I think we are supposed to see him as a character that is likable but not one that we are supposed to take seriously. I used to think he was a hopeless idiot who needed to come back down to earth.
We are taught to hide our vulnerabilities in life- and yet love is something that leaves us wide open to vulnerability.
We are supposed to be perfect, never be a mess and we are supposed to have it all together when it comes to our feelings- and we encounter the messy bits of life such as love with fear, embarrassment and shame. We are afraid that we might "Ted it up" that we will expose the truth of ourselves and our feelings and everyone will see the mess, the vulnerability.
I used to think that Ted Mosby had it all wrong about love and life- but now I think that maybe he had it right.
In a world that demands perfection and that we be in constant control of our emotions and feelings- opening up a yellow umbrella and believing in love and being vulnerable is a revolutionary act.
I am a former country girl and abuse survivor. I enjoy blogging because I find it personally therapeutic. It also allows me to share my experiences with others, and bring to light issues of abuse. I write under a pseudonym for my personal safety as well as to negate any potential legal trouble over sharing my story.